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Five Common Things Cheating Partners Say To Their Spouses


In the series of blogs we’ve created about how useful a good private detective agency on the Gold Coast  can be when you suspect that your spouse might be being less than faithful, we’ve covered many things. However, what we haven’t covered yet are those common things that people say when they’re lying about their infidelity.


In order to be in the mind to use the services of a professional Gold Coast private investigator , you first have to have your suspicions raised and be aware that something is wrong. Now, we can all convince ourselves that those little moments of suspicion don’t actually add up to anything, but as a human race, there are some common things that people say when trying to cover their tracks, and all the while being a cheating partner.


Here we look at a few of the phrases cheating partners use, so that you know what to look out for to confirm or deny those niggles at the back of your mind. Of course, there’s no guarantees that these phrases are indicative of cheating, but when added to other behaviours, they can tip the balance.


#1 – Suddenly Speaking About a New Person More Often


You don’t have to be a private detective  to know that when your spouse starts talking about a new person’s name in glowing terms, it’s a mild, yet noticeable warning sign. It could be a work colleague or someone they met socially and they might begin to tell innocent stories about things they’ve done.


Of course, it could be totally above board, but it is something that cheating partners do – introducing the name of the person they’re cheating with into conversations with their partners – as mentioning their name without fully divulging the truth is a way of dealing with their innate guilt about the situation. The thing is, lying by omission is still lying.


#2 – Answering Your Questions With More Questions


When you get suspicious about where your partner has been, you’re well within your rights to ask them to explain themselves and a sure sign that something’s up is when they answer your question of “where have you been?” with a question of their own, like “why would I lie to you?”.


Again, you don’t have to be a private investigator  to know that this is a sign of avoidance, especially as it’s a way for them to determine how much you actually know.


#3 – Accusing You Of Cheating!


Believe it or not, some cheaters have the audacity to come at their partner with accusations of the very thing that they’re doing themselves! In fact, it happens A LOT, with the cheating partner trying to cover up their mis-deeds with accusations of their own.


Sadly, if you’ve been suspicious of your partner and they react in this way, it should be ringing alarm bells in your mind. We don’t want to be bearers of bad news, but it’s true.


#4 – I HAVE NOT Been Cheating!

Now, this one is a little more subtle and will require your most acute private detective  skills. Psychologically speaking, when a cheating partner chooses to say full phrases like “Have Not”, “Will Not” and “Did Not”, it’s a sign of deception. Liars often speak in this way to emphasise that what they’re saying to you is true.


When speaking naturally, most of us use the easier contractions like “don’t” and “won’t”, so you should watch out for it happening.


#5 – It’s Not What It Looks Like!


There is perhaps a no more telling phrase when it comes to a cheating partner than “It’s not what it looks like!”. The fact is that liars often know precisely what it looks like, particularly as it IS what it looks like! An innocent person is less likely to know “what it looks like” and will be much less likely to say it as quick as a liar might.


Just think to yourself the last time you heard someone say it. Was it what it looked like?…exactly!


A Private Investigator  Can Confirm or Allay Your Fears


Ok, so it’s worth repeating that the phrases that we’ve mentioned here today are not a cast-iron guarantee that your spouse is cheating on you, but they are signs of potential infidelity. If you’re struggling with your feelings about your spouse or partner and you’d like to know one way or the other, it’s time to turn to a private detective agency .


Once on the case, a reputable private investigator  can keep an eye on what your spouse is up to for real and give you the evidence you need to be sure. If it turns out they weren’t lying, then you’ve not ruined your relationship by making too much of an issue of it. Either way, you’ll be able to stop the inner turmoil that is the “are they/aren’t they?” debate. The peace of mind is worth every penny.


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